The Bravest Parents I Know Aren’t Micromanaging — They’re Trusting

It’s easy to think the “best” parenting means overseeing every detail — micromanaging with love, expecting it will lead to success. But true success is more meaningful when it’s defined and pursued together. By involving children in setting goals and shaping their own path, parents can help them develop the confidence and skills to thrive independently.

I want to celebrate the parents who are leaning into values-based parenting.

They’re not controlling every move.

They’re watching, yes — but not to direct.

They’re watching to understand who their child is becoming.

They’re brave enough to give their child space to make the next move — even if it means holding their breath and waiting for a phone call from the principal.

This kind of parenting takes real courage — and reflects the heart of a growth mindset (thank you, psychologist Carol Dweck): Believing that kids grow through effort, not perfection.

And it reflects grit (the powerful idea of another American psychologist, Angela Duckworth): That character is built not by protecting kids from struggle — but by walking with them through it.

So: Parenting isn’t about controlling outcomes.

It’s about shaping character.

It’s about planting values and trusting that they’ll take root — even when you can’t see the growth yet.

This is parenting for the long game.

Not perfection in the moment — but growth, grit, and grace over time.

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Post Written by Lynn Coleman